Given such constraints, these young men were left with no place to truthfully register their sexuality, thus forcing them to be less than honest. He feels his same-sex sexuality internally more than he lives it externally. He does have his own adventures in life, but they are all incomplete since none of them are with her. In due time, he may come to his senses, but chances are he will never do so. For some of those men, when their heart chooses for them who it will love, they in fact will never have had any sexual relations with a woman before up to that point in life.
Savin-Williams is a professor emeritus of development psychology at Cornell University and the author most recently of Mostly Straight:
Why ‘Mostly Straight’ Men Are a Distinct Sexual Identity
Contrasted with previous generations, young people today are more confident, connected, introspective, and open to change. He returns to his philandering ways just before he met the love of his life. He may retreat from a full identification with heterosexuality, but rarely does he gravitate toward bisexuality, and almost never does he move toward homosexuality of any sort. He has proved to be a terrible and selfish human being by his mistreatment of her. A majority of millennials endorsed the second option, which means they believe in a spectrum of sexuality.
He also dumb-downs his male sex partners and female friends. She finally has moved on but deep down in her heart, she will always love him. Perhaps if his culture were not so stigmatizing of same-sex sexuality he might be more inclined to express himself through tangible expressions of sex or romance — not frequently but occasionally. The gay boy whose heart chooses the girl over another boy, will more likely spend the rest of his life in misery. TIME Ideas hosts the world's leading voices, providing commentary on events in news, society, and culture. They were a very diverse group. Well, if we are prepared to accept mostly straight as a fourth sexual identity, we gain an increasingly nuanced understanding of sexual orientation — and its close cousin, romantic orientation.